Selamat Hari Raya!
And so this is my 1st eventful hari raya with my husband. How was it? Very eventful! Yup celebrating it for the 1st time at another house. Nope I did not cry. In fact I enjoyed it very much. Told Andy that I don't think I am ready to move to a new house all by ourselves. Yes you heard me right, I think I enjoy staying with my MIL. For the 1st time ever also, I followed my MIL for Aidilfitri prayers. Very syahdu la. Cause, for this raya, there's alot of firsts for me. Heh!
On to a different thing now, why is it that we all are prejudiced towards men who earn less than their wife? Earning less than their wife does not equate to them being less responsible towards their family. Afterall husbands are the family heads.
Why is it that only during Hari Raya we ask for forgiveness? Why not on any other days when we have realised that we have made mistakes? You mean only during Raya then you ask for forgiveness for all the mistakes you've done for the past year? And then repeat the same mistakes the following day? Does that make us hypocrites then?
Are parents necessarily right? Are they always right? Are they never wrong? I am confused. What are the responsibilities of married women towards their own parents ? Who's their first priority? Husband or own parents? High expectations on children will make children feel as if a huge boulder has been put on their shoulders. Soon, that boulder will become a burden they carry throughout their life. And soon, that boulder will also turn to become a disappointment for the parents. Is that fair then? Oh heck, life is unfair.
I am not in the right state of mind now. Things are pretty awful for me now. As I say, life is unfair. What do you expect? I am now hitting the bumps, potholes, cracks and whathaveyous in my journey of life. Thus, I am badly bruised now. Will return when I am partially recovered.
Till then!
And so this is my 1st eventful hari raya with my husband. How was it? Very eventful! Yup celebrating it for the 1st time at another house. Nope I did not cry. In fact I enjoyed it very much. Told Andy that I don't think I am ready to move to a new house all by ourselves. Yes you heard me right, I think I enjoy staying with my MIL. For the 1st time ever also, I followed my MIL for Aidilfitri prayers. Very syahdu la. Cause, for this raya, there's alot of firsts for me. Heh!
On to a different thing now, why is it that we all are prejudiced towards men who earn less than their wife? Earning less than their wife does not equate to them being less responsible towards their family. Afterall husbands are the family heads.
Why is it that only during Hari Raya we ask for forgiveness? Why not on any other days when we have realised that we have made mistakes? You mean only during Raya then you ask for forgiveness for all the mistakes you've done for the past year? And then repeat the same mistakes the following day? Does that make us hypocrites then?
Are parents necessarily right? Are they always right? Are they never wrong? I am confused. What are the responsibilities of married women towards their own parents ? Who's their first priority? Husband or own parents? High expectations on children will make children feel as if a huge boulder has been put on their shoulders. Soon, that boulder will become a burden they carry throughout their life. And soon, that boulder will also turn to become a disappointment for the parents. Is that fair then? Oh heck, life is unfair.
I am not in the right state of mind now. Things are pretty awful for me now. As I say, life is unfair. What do you expect? I am now hitting the bumps, potholes, cracks and whathaveyous in my journey of life. Thus, I am badly bruised now. Will return when I am partially recovered.
Till then!
3 comments:
Oh my.. hope you ride through it fine and come out stronger although bruised and all. Life is like that.
Ceh. Aku macam paham :P
:)
ok i dunno what u are going through, but i'm having my own issues between husband and parents too... so i asked an ustazah for opinion on what to do, and she asked me, "are you married to your parents or to your husband?"
haha. i guess that's the answer then. if what your husband mintak is not haram, then we have to follow him. but so sad to disappoint our own parents eh?
sigh. susah jugak eh dah kawin ni. i hope what u are goign through is not as tough as mine. hang in there, and be strong! we'll all be ok in the end, Insya'Allah :)
Selamat Hari Raya!
Hello Shida,
thanks for the 'wake-up' qns. it certainly put sum things into perspective...
yes at the end of the day, we'll all be ok...if not our life is boring..
Selamat Hari Raya to u & family too..
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